Unwritten Rules in Germany
Navigating a new culture can be challenging, and understanding the unwritten rules of a society is crucial for successful integration. Germany, known for its rich history and unique customs, has a set of unwritten rules that can help you blend in and avoid misunderstandings. Naturally, people not everybody acts or responds the same way, but here are some general unwritten rules to keep in mind while living or traveling in Germany.
Always Have Cash on Hand
While most establishments accept card payments, Germans prefer to carry cash. It's not unusual to find places that only accept cash, especially smaller shops and restaurants.
The Importance of Handshakes
Handshake culture is huge and expected in Germany. When I first arrived here, I was astounded at how many hands I had to shake when walking into work. It’s like I had to shake everybody’s hands there. No nod, no wave, but a hand shake. I’ve heard and seen people get visibly upset because somebody didn’t shake their hand. I remember during Covid, it felt like people were at a loss because they could no longer shake hands, so they resorted to fist bumps. Now that Covid is gone, always remember a nice firm handshake when greeting people you know or are being introduced to. If you’re greeting a couple, make sure to shake the female’s hand before the male’s.
Greeting Etiquette
Apart from handshake culture, greeting culture is also big. If you don’t know somebody but you will be spending time in close proximity, you don’t have to shake their hand but you should greet. For example, if you go into the waiting room of a doctor’s office, you usually say a moderately loud “Hallo” and then everybody there will usually return the greeting as you find your seat. When you leave, it’s also appropriate to give a general “Tschuss”, which is goodbye. When you meet with the doctor, he/she will most likely shake your hand.
Separate Your Waste
Germans are very detail oriented, even when it comes to garbage. There’s paper recycling, bottle recycling, plastic recycling and many more different types of recycling. Make sure you don’t confuse them. There’s also garbage for everything and garbage for biodegradable items. It’s frowned upon to put the wrong garbage in the wrong bin.
Avoid Late Evening Calls
Don’t call people late in the evening. They aren’t expected to pick up, even if they’re not doing anything. Calling past a certain time can also be considered rude. If it’s your very close friend and you know they’re okay with it, go ahead, otherwise, I would personally refrain.
Politeness is Key
In Germany, you’re expected to be polite, or feign politeness. Even if what you’re saying is really rude, you should say it politely, using the appropriate grammar and always say thank you after your request.
Bring Cake for You Birthday
It’s an expectation to bring a cake or pastries to share with your colleagues on your birthday. You can bring anything you want as long as you can share it with your colleagues.
Follow Pedestrian Rules
If the crossing sign is red, don’t cross. I know it’s tempting… the road is free, but it’s highly frowned upon.
Respect Bike Lanes
Bikes have special lanes. If they coincide with the sidewalk, they’re usually indicated by a red colour or bike sign. If you’re a cyclist, stick to the the bike lanes. If you’re a pedestrian and you care about your safety, don’t walk in the bike lanes.
Naturally, this isn’t a comprehensive list. Germany has a rich social culture and you’ll discover many more upon arriving. Keeping these things in mind can help you adjust to life in Germany. Have you had any clashes with German culture? Let us know you experience!
